stay at Williams 1807 House in old mystic, ct

If you have ever driven through the intersection in the hamlet of Old Mystic, you might’ve noticed a beautiful blue colonial home donning patriotic buntings and flag. Located across the street from the former Old Mystic general store, I’ve photographed this historical gem many times as well as the 1784 Denison House (formerly The Old Mystic Inn) next door.

Imagine my surprise when I found out that both houses are Airbnb rentals! You can actually stay in these historical home! I contacted the owners - Debbie and Paul who graciously gifted me a two nights stay in the 1807 Williams House. A spacious house with 5 bedrooms, 3.5 bath, living room, common room, kitchen and more. It can fit up to 10 guests. The best part… it’s also dog friendly! I know how difficult it can be to find stays that allow dogs.

This was a home away from home! Well… beside the cozy King bed! I may have to beg for a King this upcoming holiday season! I enjoyed working at the desk in the bedroom as it faced the mural. There are murals throughout the house, representing Mystic Seaport. I loved this as I love to spending time walking around the Seaport with my pup! It was so fun to spot familiar buildings on the murals. Debbie put together an amazing guidebook for the area and she credits Susan Dywer Leach as the muralist.

The process of checking-in was so easy with a keyless entry and digital guidebook provided by Debbie and Paul via e-mail. I loved this digital guidebook and thought it was genius! It listed everything from house rules, WIFI information, explanations of how to use something in the house, to local recommendations. I used this digital guidebook a few times during the stay. Debbie and Paul really go out of their way to make you feel welcome and armed with this treasure trove of information about Mystic! I enjoyed a delicious apple pie they left.    

As I mentioned there are murals dedicated to Mystic Seaport throughout the house, and the theme is complete with nautical decorations on display. It was cool to see some nautical antiques! Of course, I was like a moth to the flame when I saw the plethora of books presented in every room!

The house has a total of 3 floors. It felt like a fun maze to explore! My favorite rooms were the living room and kitchen on the main floor. The living room is donned in red, white and blue. Very patriotic! The kitchen is a very cozy space, there is a fireplace with two armchairs to lounge in. The house came with plenty of things for visitors such as puzzles, games, books, a high chair, pack-n-play and even a play area for kids in the attic.

The entire time during my stay here was cloudy and rainy. The house was veryyyy cozy for days like that! There’s just something about old houses being perfect for rainy days. It was comfortable to lounge around (when I wasn’t working). There was a small table right by the front windows in the living room that was perfect for playing games. There’s a cabinet full of games and puzzles. You will never get bored in this house with all it had to offer.

My dog enjoyed the walks we took around the neighborhood. There are walkable sidewalks right in front of the house and around Old Mystic. There is a park behind the house where my dog could run around. I saw kids playing there too. We could’ve went for a longer walk on River Road - the scenic route overlooking Mystic River if it was nicer outside. If you don’t have dogs with you, I would recommend a bike ride so you can see more of the route (it’s a really long route - 3 miles by car).

This stay is perfect for large families, as you can rent the house next door or The Smith Cottage. There was a connecting path between all houses. It’s also away from the busy bustle of Downtown so you get some peace in this adorable little hamlet! Plenty of parking spaces in the driveway (Williams House shares 5 parking spaces with The Smith Cottage).

If you’re thinking of a Fall getaway to Mystic - this house is a half mile down the road from B.F. Clyde’s Cider Mill. How perfect would that be to wake up early and pop over for a cider donut?! It’s 2 minutes drive or 15 minutes walk. Olde Mistick Village is located 1.5 miles down the other direction from this house too. Olde Mistick Village is opened year-round offering shopping, a pizza restaurant, coffee shop, seasonal ice cream store, a movie theater and more.

Overall, I loved our stay at Williams 1807 house and would recommend this place! I was sad to leave. I drive through the intersection in Old Mystic on a daily basis so now it will make me smile when I recall the fun I had staying there! If you prefer something smaller, look into other properties owned by Debbie and Paul. They have another house with 3 bedrooms in Mystic and they rent out rooms in the Denison House (the former Old Mystic Inn). More information can be found here (website) or Airbnb here.

Thank you Debbie and Paul for being such a gracious host. All opinions are my own.

Daffodils at Denison Homestead Museum

Spring has already welcomed us with daffodils blooming at Denison Homestead Museum in Mystic! They usually start blooming around this time of year, late March into early April. 

The museum also hosts a Daffodil Festival, which this year will be happening on Saturday April 1, 2023 from 11am-3pm. The festival usually offers tours of the house, crafts for the kids and food and drinks. According to the website here, the daffodil field has over 10,000 flowers! 

The daffodil field is in front of the house, so it is visible from the road. I had driven by a few times in last couple weeks to watch the bloom and finally photographed them. I enjoy how this is becoming a spring kick-off tradition in Mystic. 

The field is open to the public any time during the day. It’s often quiet so it’s perfect to take photos and enjoy the flowers. If you rather extend your visit there, you can visit the Denison Nature Center across the street. There is 10+ miles of trails through nature to enjoy. Visit the website here for trail maps.

From one of the trails at DNC.

The daffodil field is located at Denison Homestead Museum at 120 Pequotsepos Road Mystic, CT 06355. There is parking available at the nature center (right across the street from museum).

My pup posing for photos in front of the daffodil field and museum.

Sunset, April 2021.

I did my pup’s Easter photos there! April 2021.

Deaf Owned Businesses

During the holidays season in 2021, I originally shared a list of deaf owned businesses and have been sent more recommendations. I decided it was time to update the list! It’s amazing how many businesses there are, and it’s so easy to support them as you can do all the shopping online! As always, I tried to list as many but still missed a lot other businesses! If you are a business owner or have a favorite deaf owned business that you don’t see listed here, please feel free to contact me.

CLOTHING

By Mara - https://www.bymara.com/

Language Priority -  https://changing-the-narrative-language-first.myshopify.com/

Ivy’s Haven Boutique - https://www.ivyshaven.com

Erry B Shop - https://erryb.myspreadshop.com/

Girl & Creativity - https://www.girlandcreativity.com/

deafloveILY - https://www.deafloveily.com/

Lila & Pip - https://www.lilapip.com/

Love Ashlee Rose -https://www.loveashleerose.com/

Deaf Identity - https://www.deafidentity.com/aboutus

dirty beard press - https://www.dirtybeardpress.com/

Sisters in Style Online - https://sistersinstyleonline.com

ART

58 Creativity - https://58creativity.com/

Jena Floyd Art - https://www.etsy.com/shop/jenafloyd

Love Letters by Emily - https://www.lovelettersbyemily.com/

J9 Art Shop - https://www.etsy.com/shop/J9ArtShop

Viva Jess - https://www.etsy.com/shop/VivaJess

Kellie Martin Art - https://www.etsy.com/shop/KellieMartinArt?ref=seller-platform-mcnav

CRAFT

Raine Collective - https://shopraineco.com/

Strings and Things Handmade Macrame - https://www.instagram.com/stringsandthings_gi/?hl=en

Kissfist Stitch - https://www.instagram.com/kissfiststitch/?hl=en

Garden Stick Designs - https://www.etsy.com/shop/gardenstickdesigns

WELLNESS/CANDLES

Blue Organic Kitchen - https://blueorganickitchen.com/

Purple Rose Wellness - https://purplerosewellness.com/

Hotsy Totsy Haus - https://www.hotsytotsyhaus.com/

Kova Kandle - https://www.etsy.com/shop/KovaKandles

JEWERLY

Eden and Clay - https://www.edenandclay.com/

FOOD/BAKING

Bake It with Sass - http://bakeitwithsass.com/

There are so many other Deaf owned businesses that I couldn’t cover in this post! I’m excited that there are so many deaf talent. If you’re looking for something in particular, please don’t hesitant to contact me and I can try to help you find a deaf owned business specializing in that. 

Happy shopping! 

A novel day in New Haven, CT

I celebrated my birthday this past weekend. It’s always hard to plan a fun getaway in the middle of winter. It so happened that this weekend also brought low windchill too! I decided that my love for books would make New Haven a perfect destination. Last Fall, I met two women in Kent, CT at a bookstore. They had been bookstore hopping that day. I never ever had done bookstore hopping and thought that was a brilliant idea!

There are so many bookstores, libraries and museums within walking distance, and all indoors! The best part? It was very low cost. I only had to pay for parking and snacks. I ate lunch beforehand and didn’t stay long enough to eat dinner in New Haven, so if you do - look into the pizzerias. New Haven is known for their pizza!

Here is the itinerary of my bookish day:


Beinecke Rare Books and Manuscript Library

For the longest time, I’ve been seeing photos of this library on Instagram. I had to finally check this off my bucket list! The largest building in the world devoted to books. There were over a million books, manuscripts and more. It was a beautiful sight to see all the books. I took my time, sitting in one of the comfy chairs around the library to take in the sights!

Yale’s Sterling Memorial Library

I’ve passed this iconic library several times on my walks around Yale campus but have never gone inside. On reason why is cause I’ve always had my pup with me. It was too cold for her to join me this weekend so I finally got my chance. I WAS BLOWN AWAY. The library was GORGEOUS. It is built in the collegiate gothic style (resembling a European cathedral). There are many beautiful stained glass windows everywhere (later on, I read there is a total of 3,300!). All the study spaces were stunning, I’m jealous of the students who gets to enjoy the beauty of the library on a daily basis! It would be a dream to work there!

Grey Matter Books

A small bookstore with many used books! The books were mostly unique, rare and unusual. I enjoyed looking through the older editions of classics. The atmosphere was very laid back and relaxing. Chairs were scattered throughout the bookstore for people to take a seat while browsing. There were multiple piles of book stack everywhere.

Atticus Bookstore Cafe

Located on the first floor next to Yale Center for British Art, it is a small bookstore and cafe. The bookstore had beautifully curated organized sections of books. I loved browsing through the ‘staff recommendations’ and ‘best books of 2022’ sections. The cafe was bustling, with nearly every table occupied.

Yale Center for British Art

This isn’t a ‘bookish’ spot but worthwhile to check out! It had a large collection of British art. It was organized by time period, making it easy to maneuver through the gallery. They suggest starting at the 4th floor and working your way down. My favorite was The Long Gallery on the 4th floor. A gallery with the walls covered in paintings. I could see myself take a seat and study the art!

Free admission. Also note YCBA will be closed February 27th until 2024 for a building conservation project.

Yale University Art Gallery

The oldest university art museum has four levels of extensive art collections from African Art, Asian Art, paintings, sculptures, Early European art, photographs, drawings, coins and many more. It had plenty to see! I didn’t get to see the entire gallery because of timing, so be sure to plan at least half a day for this. I was excited to spot some of my favorite painters like Monet. The building itself is also gorgeous!

Free admission.

Book Trader Cafe

This bookstore was really crowded when I visited. I didn’t get to see much of it unfortunately, but I did see that it had a good selection of used books from $1-$10. The atrium side of the shop was really busy, it is a cool spot where the tables were surrounded by bookshelves. The cafe sold coffee, drinks, pastries and more.

The Yale Bookstore

Every time I come to the Yale campus, I always pop into Barnes and Noble (The Yale Bookstore) to browse through the Yale memorabilia and souvenirs. Of course, I also browse through the books, especially the Yale authors section. Did you know that the author of Ninth House and recently released Hell Bent, Leigh Bardugo is a Yale alumni? I bought a Yale mug for all the tea I tend to drink while reading!

It was a fun book themed day and I enjoyed my time in New Haven! I love Yale with all of its gorgeous gothic architecture. There’s so many details that I continue to find new-to-me every time I visit. New Haven has plenty more that I didn’t share here such as shops, restaurants, more museums, so forth. It’s easy to do a day trip here during the winter! I had the perfect evening at home reading Ninth House which the opening scene was at the Beinecke Rare Books and Manuscripts Library while drinking delicious tea in my new Yale mug!

A Tribute to Sue Thomas

As a teenager, I eagerly sat down in front of my television with the closed caption decoder box - TeleCaptions II. The TeleCaptions II was stacked on top of the VCR player, plugged into the TV so I could watch any movie or show with closed captions. This was during early 2000’s - when closed captioning was just beginning to be available on some shows/movies - when I didn’t need to use the box every time.

One of the shows that I obsessively watched was ‘Sue Thomas: F.B. Eye’. It was a TV series based on the real life of Sue Thomas, a deaf woman who was a professional lip reader for the FBI in Washington D.C. She was the first deaf person to work undercover for the FBI.

Sue Thomas was born in Ohio in 1950, became profoundly deaf at 18 months for unknown reasons. She was raised orally - learning speech and lipreading. She wasn’t fluent in sign language. From 1979-1983 she worked for the FBI. In 1990 she wrote a memoir titled ‘Silent Night’ about her experiences.

The book was the inspiration for the TV series ‘Sue Thomas: F.B. Eye’. The show that I would grow up to watch and admire Sue. She was a deaf role model for me. Remember back then, with no internet or social media - I didn’t have any deaf role models to look up to. That only gave me Sue Thomas, Marlee Matlin and Heather Whitestone (Miss America 1995).

I loved the show. I was in awe that a deaf person was working for the FBI. At this point, my interest in criminal justice was well established. I wanted to follow in her steps and go work for the FBI. That goal stayed with me through out high school and half of my college years. I might’ve changed my path but Sue Thomas remained a large influence in my life.

Sue Thomas made her way to Heaven on December 13, 2022 at the age of 72. I am feeling very sad for losing one of my role models. She was an inspiring person with so much love and care for the world! I encourage you to re-watch the series (available for free on Tubi) or read her book ‘Silent Night’ (available on Amazon).

Thank you Sue Thomas for making such a positive impact. You will always be remembered.

The real Sue Thomas on left with her service dog. The actress and dog on the right played Sue Thomas/service dog in ‘Sue Thomas: F.B. Eye’ TV show. Photo credit: Sue Thomas: F.B. Eye [Facebook].

Sue Thomas with her service dog, Rodney. Photo credit: Sue Thomas FBI [Facebook].

Downtown Mystic Holiday Stroll

Do you have plans for Tuesday, December 6, 2022?!

Now you do, it’s the annual Downtown Holiday stroll in Mystic! 

From 6-9pm, it will be festive with carolers singing some holiday tunes, storefronts decked out with holiday decor and Santa will be walking around! The stores are open late to help you check things off your holiday shopping list. 

I always enjoy this event every year. You can feel the sense of community and holiday spirit on top of that. It’s so fun! In some stores, they give away free cider/hot chocolate and cookies/finger foods. The customers also get in on the fun with dressing up festive. One year I saw a wagon full of dogs wearing Santa hats! 

It’s the best way to support local businesses. Let’s show them how much we appreciate and love having them here in Mystic! There’s such a wide variety of things to get, that you shouldn’t be leaving without completing your list. 

See you there on Tuesday December 6th from 6-9pm in Downtown Mystic! Don’t hesitant to say HI!

Holiday Lighted Boat Parade

It’s holidays season!

On Small Business Saturday, my family has a tradition to do some shopping in Mystic and then see the annual holiday lighted boat parade. The first stop is always at Olde Mistick Village which is an outdoor mall consisting of mom and pop shops. More about the village can be read at this blog here.

After shopping at Olde Mistick Village, we head to downtown to shop more of the mom and pop shops that adorn Mystic River. It’s an afternoon of shopping with a beautiful scenery, can’t beat that! I love this time of year when we see the holidays themed window displays in many of the shops.

We usually grab some dinner at one of the many, many options in Downtown Mystic. It is my suggestion to make reservations, as it can be busy on this day with Small Business Saturday and the events! Then it’s off to Mystic River Park to get a good spot for the holiday lighted boat parade. The holiday lighted boat parade is our annual tradition to kick off the holidays season.

The Christmas tree in Mystic River Park is donated every year by someone in the area. It gets lit every year on the night of the boat parade. It is displayed in center of the river park filled with multi colored lights. The countdown to lighting the tree is always loudly cheered by the people surrounding Mystic River Park.

The holiday lighted boat parade is unique event that Mystic has and it’s always delightful! The boats are decorated creatively every year. One year a guy proposed to his girlfriend by using the lights to spelling out her name, and “marry me?” (I was able to find out on social media later on that she did indeed accepted the proposal!). The event is typically a mix of private vessels but we do get to see a tugboat and Mystic Fire Department Marine One.

Also same day of the lighted boat parade, Santa Claus always comes to downtown by a tugboat! He sits in the Mystic River Park during late afternoon to take photographs and chat with everyone.

The holiday lighted boat parade is always the Saturday after Thanksgiving every year. I love our tradition of supporting local and a fun festive holiday event!

Recommendations of shops to visit on Small Business Saturday: read here.

Also don’t forget to check out the holiday lights at Olde Mistick Village (read here) and come to the holiday stroll in downtown Mystic in early December (also read here)!

My Deaf voice

If you have met me in person, you will notice how I have an accent. It’s my ‘Deaf’ voice. I was raised in the oral method in New Jersey, where I was born. When my family moved to New York I was learning in the oral method + SEE (Signed Exact English). What is SEE? It’s sign language that follows English grammar. ASL has its own grammar rules different from English. I picked up on some ASL when I had an interpreter with me in my mainstreamed classes from Grade 5 until high school graduation.

I took countless hours of speech therapy from 3 years old until freshman year of college. 16 years. I had to memorize how to pronounce words. I don’t hear myself talk. I never will. So many people have said to me how impressed they are with how well I speak for a Deaf person. I talk so well that some people doubted that I was Deaf, they think I am Hard of Hearing.

When I went to RIT (college in Rochester, NY), I immersed myself in the Deaf world. But I was criticized for using my voice. Why?! It was highly frowned upon to use your voice while signing simultaneously, this was the only way I knew how to communicate! They had an insult sign, which was the sign for ‘hearing’ on the forehead - I was called that a few times. That insult is most common towards Deaf people who looks more ‘hearing’ based on their signs/using voice/oral/etc. I’ve gotten mistaken many times as a hearing person.

This was the hardest part about trying to find my place within my world. This weighed on me so heavily that I went through a period of depression over my identity.

Being back in the hearing world now, I’ve learned a lot since then. I realized that it was important for me to continue using my voice because my family and husband relies upon it. We also use sign language so using both helps them to understand me better. I’ve decided to accept that this is the best way for me to communicate.

I have stopped using my voice when I go out in public. I realized that once people see me using my voice, they automatically rely on that. It puts all the burden of communication onto me. I have to lip read and talk. I don’t lip read well! When I don’t use my voice, they focus on other ways to communicate (paper-and-pen or Notes app on the phone).

When I am around Deaf people or anyone who uses ASL, I do try to drop my voice. It’s such a hard, hard, hard habit to break after using sim-com for 16 years. Most often my voice would be very quiet or some words still gets pronounced (quietly). I still use sim-com when I’m around my hearing family and friends. I do hope that my voice helps them to understand me, but I would always appreciate if they took some of the burden off me by learning a little sign language.

My ‘Deaf’ voice is something that I’ve took a long time to accept. I’ve got questioned a few times about why my voice sounds funny. My favorite question is always the “Where are you from?”. I can play around and throw out random locations. But it’s also something that I am very self-conscious about because I know my accent isn’t perfect. It obviously sounds different. I always muted all videos on social media. I don’t want to get bullied over my voice.

Many people don’t realize that when a Deaf person talks it is based from memorization. We learned all of that in speech therapy. I never can tell the tone of my voice, as much I try to control that. Sometimes I don’t always realize the volume of my voice too. I learned how to pronounce every single word by memorization. Imagine learning how to swim without being in a pool then you swim based on memorization! That is what talking is for me!

Veterans Day

For the upcoming Veterans day, I am very grateful for what our men and women sacrifice for our country. We may be celebrating them, but I’m thankful for them every day all year long

Standing under the Hometown Heroes banner of my Poppop who served in the Navy.

What can we do to support our veterans?

Attend local events. Donate to charities/projects. Volunteer. Support veterans owned businesses.

  • Mystic VFW [event] is hosting their annual 11am ceremony on Veterans Day at the WWI Monument on Baptist Hill (Library Street + West Main Street). Anyone is welcome to attend.

The WWI Monument in Mystic on Library Street and West Main Street.

  • USSIV Groton Subvets [event] hosts ceremonies on Veterans Day. They also make lunches/brunches at their clubhouse. Be sure to check out the events and more information at their website here.

  • The Town of Stonington [donate] is working with the VFW in Pawcatuck, currently collecting donations towards the Veterans Monument project. It is their goal to build a Monument to honor Stonington veterans. More information here. As of August 3rd, they have surpassed $110,000 in donations. Let’s help them reach their goal of $200,000!

One of donation jars for the Stonington Veterans Monument at Indulge Coffee.

  • Dine at S&P Oyster in Mystic, CT on Veterans Day. Twenty percent of all sales that day will be donated towards Connecticut Department of Veterans Affairs.

  • Operation Stand Down Rhode Island [donate/volunteer/event], is a non profit organization based next door in Rhode Island. They focuses on helping veterans to find housing and services. If you are in Rhode Island, you can volunteer for the organization. You can also donate to them on their website here. Sometimes Operation Stand Down RI host local events.

  • V.E.T.S. (Veterans Equine Therapeutic Services) [veterans owned/donate/volunteer] based in Stonington, CT, provides equine-assisted healing therapeutic services for veterans. It is a place for veterans to engage with horses and do activities such as archery, wood crafting, etc. If you donate to them on the website here, it will help veterans to participate at no charge. Also on the website, under ‘programs’ you can see what volunteer opportunities are available on the horse farm. Be sure to check out their cool military-themed tees in the shop too! 

  • Submarine Museum in Groton [volunteer/donate], you can donate your time and become a docent for the museum. More information here on how to volunteer. You can also donate or support via shopping their store online here. The museum is owned and operated by the U.S. Navy. 

  • Bank and Bridge [veterans owned] is a brewery in downtown Mystic, it is in the old bank building and owned by a Marine Corps veteran. This is a great spot for a bite and drinks! 

Bank & Bridge brewery - outdoor patio. It is cozy right now with the heaters!

  • Mystic River Chocolate Cafe, [veterans owned] owned by a 3rd generation Navy veteran, they sell a variety of chocolate treats and drinks. I love picking up a few chocolate bars from there! My favorites are the Chocolate Vine, Pinot Noir, Blueberry and Black Cherry. During 2020, I ordered a few bars as a birthday gift for a family member who lives out of the area. I talked with the owner via email about shipping, they were super helpful. I love their non-dairy hot chocolate, it is delicious! Located in the Factory Square but available online here too. 

Mystic River Chocolate Cafe.

They have special Mystic River Bridge editions!

  • Absolute Bearing [veterans owned] is an online coffee company based in Mystic, owned by a Navy veteran. During the summers, you can find them at farmers markets. Shop online here. Their product is also available at Mystic River Chocolates (the business mentioned above). 

Absolute Bearing coffee sold at Mystic River Chocolate Cafe.

  • Mystic Army Navy [veteran family owned] is a long time Downtown Mystic business (28 years!). It was originally owned by two Veterans who have since passed away, it is currently owned by one of their daughters. Support this veteran-family owned business who sells military surplus! Shop online here.

Mystic Army Navy store in Downtown Mystic.

  • 13 Stars Hot Sauce [veterans owned] based out of RI is Veteran-owned. A portion of their profits are donated towards Veterans & First Responders causes. The hot sauce can be found at McQuade’s in Mystic, CT also at Ocean House and Dunn’s Corner Store in Westerly, RI. Their products are available to order online here

Some of 13 Stars hot sauces at McQuade’s store in Mystic.

Support Veterans out of area:

  • Climb-4, [veterans owned/donate] is an online charity founded by a veteran, Leslie (a wonderful person who I’ve got to know via Instagram and she’s also a Dalmatian mama!!). Climb-4 strives to help fight depression and PTSD by allowing veterans the opportunity to get outdoors. Donate towards the costs of the essential gears for veterans here

  • Got Your Six Coffee, [veterans owned] veteran-owned coffee company. The profits from their sales goes back in helping Veterans and first responders. They have strong passion in helping other veterans, with goals to eliminate veteran homelessness/suicides. Get your coffee, apparel or others here.

  • America’s Vet Dogs [donate] is an organization providing service dogs for Veterans and first responders. All services are provided at no charge for Veterans. If you recall President George H.W. Bush’s service dog, Sully came from this organization. Donate here at their website. Also on the website are apparel, accessories and products in the shop.

THANK YOU VETERANS,

I am grateful for each and every one of you EVERY DAY.

Land of the free, home of the brave!

Seabees Museum and Memorial Park

With upcoming Veterans Day, I thought I’d share an idea if you’re looking for somewhere to visit and learn about United States military history.

First some background, my Poppop is a veteran, proudly served in the United States Navy Seabees from 1951-1954. He passed away at the age of 89 in 2019. When the anniversary rolls around every year, I try to do an activity in memory of him. I came across the Seabees museum online so off to Rhode Island I went.

I visited the Seabees Museum and Memorial Park in North Kingston, Rhode Island. It is a museum dedicated to those who served in the United States Navy Seabees. The museum contains many artifacts and tells history about Seabees’ roles. Seabees have been around for a few wars including WW II, The Korean War, The Vietnam War and in the Middle East.

The museum was very well organized, each section focusing on a specific time era. Outside of the museum, there are 6 acres of land with a few Quonset huts, a church and bunkers. There are souvenirs available for purchase inside. I picked up a Seabees coin and carry it around with me. Whenever I look at it, I think of my Poppop.

It took approximately 1-2 hours to look around the entire museum and the property. If you want to make a day out of it… you could visit Naval War College Museum and Artillery Co of Newport in Newport, Rhode Island. Newport is a half hour drive from North Kingston. Be sure to check out their websites for information.



More information about Seabees Museum:

Address: 21 lafrate Way, North Kingston, RI 02852

Hours: Wednesdays and Saturdays from 9:30am-2pm.

NOTE: The museum is non-profit ran by Seabees, their families and volunteers. Be sure to call ahead first if you’re visiting from out of the area.

Fall in New Hampshire

For the long weekend in October, my family wanted to go on a camping trip so we went to Hancock, New Hampshire. Located in southern NH, on the border of Massachusetts. We just went to Maine two weeks prior , that trip was a long haul to pull the camper. Hancock was perfect because it is only 2 and half hours from Mystic, CT.

I also wanted to go somewhere that had amazing foliage! It’s often recommended to go more northern into the White Mountain region (Conway, Franconia, etc). So many New Englanders love going to Vermont or New Hampshire for leaf peeping. I have never gone further north than the CT border during fall, I had to see what I was missing out on!

Our itinerary looked like this:

Day 1 — Hancock

We arrived in Hancock, NH around 3pm. After setting up our camper at the campground, we went exploring the small town of Hancock. There was a downtown historical village. A beautiful historical church with old horse stables. The pond behind the church had a small beach. This turned out to be a perfect spots for photographing the foliage! My favorite had to be the gazebo in the town green and Hancock Market. The market was one of those small town stores with a beautiful facade. Very quintessential New England!

Hancock Market in Hancock, NH.

Quintessential New England home in Hancock, NH.

Day 2 — Peterborough/Dublin/Jaffrey/Rindge

A day of road tripping on the rural roads. We stopped in Peterborough first, a good sized small town with a downtown. A lot of antiques shops! There was a large plaza with many stores and restaurants. Of course, I popped in the bookstore which had a section of discounted used books. I fell in love with the town’s gluten free/dairy free cafe, Vital Provisions. The Southern Comfort food (chicken and waffles) was AMAZING. I even came back to get two meals for the road/eat at home. I miss them a lot already!

Peterborough, NH.

A beautiful church in Peterborough, NH.

A woman reading a book in a Peterborough park.

Dublin was an even smaller town. There was a historical village district with town hall, police station, fire department, church, library and home of Yankee Magazine. There isn’t much to see here, but it’s very picturesque! There happened to be a touch-a-truck event at the fire department so we took our Dalmatian to photograph her with the trucks. While at the event, someone recommended we drive up the road to the water. It was the best recommendation, some of my best photos were taken right there! It was so gorgeous with the foliage.

My pup with the Dublin Fire Department truck.

Dublin Pond in Dublin, NH.

Jaffrey was another small town with a downtown area. It was adorable to see their scarecrows event. We drove over the border to Rindge to check out Cathedral of the Pines. An open-air cathedral with panoramic views of Grand Monadnock. It was so stunning! My jaw literally dropped at the views (remember… even more beautiful with the foliage!). While we were there, the space was being set up for a wedding. I only can imagine the beautiful wedding photos with that backdrop!

Cathedral of the Pines.

Day 3 — Brattleboro, VT and Keene

I never had been to Vermont. Brattleboro was less than a hour drive from Hancock. We walked around a downtown filled with many shops. I loved Brattleboro Books, a used books store. Brattleboro had a very artistic vibe with many murals in town. I do have to mention that it was really difficult to have my pup with us because many shops did not allow pets. I stopped in Against the Grain, one of my favorite gluten free brands. Their warehouse had a small store with their products and bakery goods. I grabbed some whoopie pies, muffins and brownies. So good!

Brattleboro Books.

Keene was the biggest city we visited in New Hampshire. The downtown was only blocks away from a college so there were many shops, restaurants and businesses. I spotted the Parrish Shoes mural on one of the buildings and was excited to learn that the movie, Jumanji was filmed there! My favorite store was the Hannah Grimes Marketplace. It had many local artisans goods. Also, if you’re into fire stations - the Keene Fire Department was pretty impressive with an older building across the street from the current building.

The Jumanji mural in Keene, NH.

The Main Street of Keene.

Keene Fire Department.

STAY: Spacious Skies Seven Maples Campground / Hancock, NH

We stayed at this campground. It was a very idyllic setting, surrounded by the trees. The campground was very spacious, had a fun game room and clean facilities, the people there are friendly. Very family oriented campground with many activities for families to participate. The weekend we were there, they had hayrides, Halloween costumes parade and trick-n-treating. A beautiful pond where you can go catch-and-release fishing.

Enjoying a good book by the campfire!

Southern New Hampshire isn’t really a tourist destination, being a very rural area, but it was simple and relaxing. It definitely is the ideal photographers destination! I saw so many photographers everywhere. There was plenty of spaces where you could easily pull off the road. I loved exploring on the rural roads, taking us through many historical districts. I appreciate how many historical buildings we have in New England. The area also had plethora of covered bridges too! The weekend in NH was very enjoyable. It motivated us to plan a trip more north of NH during fall another time!

One of few maple sugar shacks we saw in NH.

One of gorgeous sceneries we saw on the back roads in NH.

Acadia National Park

Acadia National Park has one of the most gorgeous views. I loved how the park is surrounded by mountains, cliffs, rocks and the water. All the evergreen trees! I wanted to buy a pine scented candle when I got home to remember that smell.

Here are some suggestions of what to see in Acadia National Park:




Hulls Cove Visitor Center — This is the ideal spot to start the adventure at Acadia Park. We paid our fee ($30 per car) here and got information/map as well suggestions from the park ranger. Our fee granted us 7-days access so it’s nice to not have to cram everything in one day. Did you know that Acadia Park is the first to see the sunrise in the United States? I recommend you to make plans to see it at least once!

Park Loop Road — This is the main road that takes you through Acadia National Park. It’s a two way street at first, but then it becomes one way. There are several pull over spaces or paved parking lots to check out the sights of the park. If you drive straight through the entire loop without stopping, it’s approximately 30-40 minutes. Give yourself at least 2-3 hours to stop and enjoy the beautiful park! Don’t fret, there are multiple auto exits along Park Loop Road so you’re not stuck if you wanted to take a break.

Jordan Pond — There is a restaurant called Jordan Pond House there with panoramic view of the pond. There is also a path around the water body (Jordan Pond) that is beautiful. During our first time there, the water was so calm and clear that you could see to all the rocks at the bottom. It was a very picturesque scene.

Sands Beach — One of the most GORGEOUS beaches I’ve seen in my life. As soon I walked onto the beach, my jaw literally dropped. The color of the water was so blue. The sand was almost-white. The views of the pine trees everywhere, the rocky coast. Just stunning!

Thunder Hole — This was fun and the best spot to watch the waves crash against the rocks. There is a small inlet where the waves crashes into, making a thunderous noise hence the name. I suggest visit this spot early, before the water gets crazy! The waves can spray hight up onto the viewing platform.

Otter Cliffs — This is probably my favorite part of Acadia National Park. I love seeing the evergreen trees on the cliffs overlooking the water. It’s the most beautiful view. I enjoy sitting on the rocks, taking in the sights and smells of pine trees and salty water. I regret that we didn’t bring picnic lunch or dinner to eat there, so that’s what I would recommend you to do!

Bass Head Harbor Lighthouse — The lighthouse perches on the cliffs in Southwest Harbor in Trenton, ME. It isn’t right off the Park Loop Road so it’s a bit of a drive. It’s worth it to see, especially at sunset! The walk isn’t straightforward as you would have to climb some rocks to see the lighthouse.

Cadillac Mountain — The highest point of Acadia National Park. I loved the coastal views! This is highly recommended for sunrises but it can get crazy busy. In fact, in our recent trip we learned that you have to make reservations on-line 2-days ahead of time (between mid-May to mid-October) to visit Cadillac Mountain. So we didn’t get to see it on the recent trip, but it was amazing to see during our first trip. I recall that it was super windy too!




There are many hiking trails inside the park. Make sure you stop by the visitor’s center to get map, info, etc. The park does not have phone signal, but it was nice to connect with the nature. I could sit there all day to take in the beautiful sights!




See the Bar Harbor guide here.

Bar Harbor, Maine

In 2017, my family went up to Bar Harbor, Maine for the first time. Bar Harbor is located on Mount Desert Island surrounded by Frenchman Bay. We had such a wonderful time and often talked about returning. We finally went back there 5 years later! The first trip was during Memorial Day weekend and the recent trip was at end of September.

Here are some suggestions of what to do in Bar Harbor, ME:


Acadia National Park

This is the main attraction in Bar Harbor. There is so many recommendations that I have for Acadia National Park alone… the blog can be read here.

Downtown Bar Harbor / Agamont Park

A short drive from Acadia National Park is the main street where all the shops, restaurants, breweries and more are located. It’s fun to stroll around the town, pop in the shops and enjoy the waterfront views from Agamont Park. There are several parking lots around the town to make parking a little easier.

Visit the shops

There are plenty of shops to check out. I’ll share a few of my favorites.

  • Acadia Park Company — So many comfy sweatshirts or hats to choose from!

  • Cool as a Moose — Another apparel store with many choices!

  • Bar Harbor Tea Company — The tea from here is delicious! The wild Maine blueberry green tea is one of my favorites.

  • The Maine Store — It’s a tradition to pick up an ornament from every trip, so both times we visited Bar Harbor… we found one here. I also love how they have many local artisans, so you will find unique items in this shop.

  • The Acadia Country Store — I love the ‘general stores’ type and this was the spot! This is where you can find some of those Blueberry soda (we’re obsessed!) to take home.

Dog Friendly

I have to mention that Bar Harbor is INCREDIBLY dog friendly. We were able to take our pup literally everywhere! It’s one of the best vacation destinations we’ve been to with our pup, never having to worry about where we can go. Many restaurants had outdoor space. Don’t forget to visit Bark Harbor, the pet store. Pick up a fun souvenir for your pet here!

Books

  • Sherman’s Maine Coast Book Shops — The oldest bookstore in Maine is located in downtown Bar Harbor. It’s a well organized shop with categorized books. I always have to visit the bookstores in every town!

  • Jesup Memorial Library — It is a stunning library! It’s not far from the town green. I was blown away by the beauty of the interiors. I wanted to sit there and just read a good book, but I had arrived there 15 minutes before their closing time. It’s worth to pop in and appreciate the beauty of this library!

  • Seal Harbor Library — We stumbled onto this library by accident. This library comes with a waterfront view! It was amazing.

Eat/Drink

  • Side Street Cafe — We found this restaurant during our first trip because it had an outdoor space where our pup is allowed. This is my favorite restaurant in Bar Harbor. I was so happy when we returned to Bar Harbor for the second time to find that this restaurant also had amazing gluten free options. We ended up eating there exclusively! The servers also were top notch with friendly customer service.

  • Stewman’s Lobster Pound — During our first to Bar Harbor, we enjoyed a beautiful sunset dinner on the outdoor patio overlooking the water. The food also were very delicious!

  • Acadia Perk — If you know me, I’m a Friends fan! The logo was similar to Central Perk’s logo (see photo). This is a good spot for coffee or pastries!

Where to stay

The first time we visited Bar Harbor, we stayed at Belle Isle Motel. The recent trip was with our camper so we stayed at a campground. Both sites were within 15-20 minutes drive to Bar Harbor, 10-15 minutes to Acadia National Park.

  • Belle Isle Motel — Dog friendly. The place was very clean and affordable. Located at 910 ME-3 Bar Harbor, ME 04609.

  • Hadley’s Point Campground — Dog friendly. The campground was beautifully maintained. Friendly staff. 33 Hadley’s Point Rd, Bar Harbor, ME 04609



I love visiting Maine, especially Bar Harbor where it just takes my breath away! It’s so gorgeous there and it does the soul good. I look forward to our next reunion, Bar Harbor!

A tribute to Jennifer L. Gravitz

During the Deaf Awareness Month last month, I pondered about deaf-related experiences that I could write about. It hit me that I need to share about the teachers, the ultimate role models.

I never really thought in depth about what makes someone the BEST teacher, other than someone who would go out of their way for students, care about them, etc. In my 2nd year at Rochester Institute of Technology, I walked into the criminal justice department to transfer into their program, at that time I was a photography major (I know, I know… the irony of this NOW). I met Professor Jennifer L. Gravitz. She became my advisor. I had no idea at the time how much she’d change my life.

Gravitz was not just a professor at RIT, but also a lawyer and [female!] rabbi! And probably more jobs that I wasn’t aware of. She spent a lot of time advocating for the Deaf community. At RIT she taught several criminal justice courses such as Concept in Criminal Law, Computer Crime, Cyber Law, etc. I took ALL of the classes with her.

What made her the ULTIMATE teacher? The way she taught her classes… using sign language and verbally talking. The classes were mainstreamed so at most there would be 5-8 deaf students per class. Gravitz included the deaf students. I never felt ‘different’ in her classes. There were interpreters to voice for the deaf students so the others could understand what was being said.

I took Concept in Criminal Law with another professor. Halfway through, I ended up having to drop because I was struggling in the class. I decided to try it with another professor. Gravitz provided that accessibility and understanding for the deaf community. She gave us time to understand concepts in her classes. She was willing to provide extra time outside of classes if we needed. She truly cared about us!

I forgot to mention, she is hearing. I’m not sure if this is correct, but it’s been said she was an interpreter at one point. She was one of the biggest advocates for the Deaf community in Rochester, NY. Gravitz was truly one of kind at RIT - it was very rare for hearing professors to provid that level of accessibility in their classes. How many hearing professors would be as accepting of the large deaf population at RIT and work so hard to learn ASL to provide 100% accessibility? That is the ultimate professor anyone could be.

I was never the student to participate in classes until Gravitz’s classes. I felt so comfortable. I spoke up. I asked questions. I talked a lot! I felt seen in her class. I also felt that Gravitz’s approach influenced the hearing students to be accepting as well. I felt that I was able to make many friends from her classes.


One example of how understanding Gravitz was in regards of deaf needs - she had patience. That’s an important trait to have especially when you’re around deaf people. An example of Gravitz’s patience is when she’d give breaks during classes. The breaks were for the C-print team, because they needed to switch. Back up first, C-print is an accommodation for students who aren’t fluent in ASL and prefer to read captions via computer screen. The typists, usually in teams of two would switch after specific amount of time. Gravitz gave that pause so none of us would miss a word. That wasn’t common practice at RIT, as professors would continue to talk during the switch and students missed out on that 5-10 minutes window.

So again, this is another reason why Gravitz was that ultimate teacher role model, she had that knowledge of what the needs were for the deaf community. It really showed that she truly cared for us. I am blessed to have that experience of being in her classes as well having her as my advisor.

And as my wedding officiant. She married my husband and I in 2015. I also spent more time with Gravitz when I started dating my husband who is Jewish. Gravitz is a Rabbi herself, she ran many events with RIT Hillel Club. Again, she made those events very accessible! I was able to learn a lot about Judaism because of her. One of my fondest memories is my first Passover, we celebrated with her and several other Deaf students. Gravitz also made her teaching personable by incorporating personal stories. Those have stuck in my mind, so now during Passovers I always think of her and her stories.

As soon my husband and I got engaged, I knew I needed to have her to officiant our wedding! She was one of the first priorities we focused on when we started the wedding planning. I was thrilled that she was able to officiant, especially when we got married on a high holiday weekend (Rosh Hashanah)! Gravitz truly made our wedding ceremony so special. She blended both of us so perfectly, made it accessible for both of us and her humor! I’m so, so fortunate that she was a part of our special day.

In memory of Jennifer L. Gravitz, who passed away in January 2020 after a courage battle with breast cancer.

Deaf books

For Deaf Awareness Month, I complied a list of d/Deaf books that I recommend:

True Biz by Sara Novic [adult fiction]

This will always be one of my favorite Deaf books! It is a fiction read, following three characters at a deaf school. I found this to be a very informative read. It covered a variety of important topics within the deaf community such as the risks of deaf schools closing, the controversy of cochlear implants and language depravation. The book also shows the spectrum of deaf lives. Each character is deaf but are so different based on their communication methods. The book reads like a love letter to deaf community!

El Deafo by Cece Bell [middle grade/graphic novel]

An adorable graphic novel about deafness. It follows a girl who transferred to a new school. She showed and taught people about her deafness. The artwork in this graphic novel was very clear and showed how to interact with deaf kids. I laughed and cried. I could relate so well because I changed schools in 5th grade. I strongly recommend this book to young adults/kids but even adults would enjoy this too!

Haben, The DeafBlind Woman Who Conquered Harvard Law by Haben Girma [memoir]

A memoir by the first DeafBlind person to graduate from Harvard Law. It shared her experiences from her childhood up to her college years. I found her to be a very strong and influential person. This book shows how to be a strong advocate. It was written beautifully, especially when the author shows her humor. I have been following her on social media where she continues to teach, so I’m still learning! It’s important that we recognize the spectrum of the deaf community which includes the deaf blind community. Haben’s story is an aspiring example.

You Don’t Know Everything, Jilly P! By Alex Gino [middle grade/fiction]

A fiction YA read about Jilly who has a new deaf baby sister. Her family maneuvers through deafness, finding the best resources for the baby sister. Jilly also has a new deaf friend who teaches her how to be an ally. I appreciated that the author explained, in the author’s note, how they were not deaf so that’s why Jilly was a hearing character. The author did not want to be inauthentic so they wrote the perspective of a hearing person learning about deafness.

Silent Alarm, On the Edge with a Deaf EMT by Steven L. Schrader [memoir]

I was excited to find this book when I joined the ambulance organization as a first responder a long time ago. It was really interesting to read about the author’s experiences and how it differs from mine, he was in a large/busy city while I was in a small town. There were still so many stories and experiences that I could relate to, as well the challenges and discrimination. This book was very encouraging to chase your dream. Well written book!

The Invention of Miracles, Language, Power and Alexander Graham Bell’s Quest to end Deafness by Katie Booth [non fiction/history]

One of most powerful books about deaf history. Alexander Graham Bell is known to many as the telephone inventor but he was controversial figure in the deaf community. He wanted to eliminate sign language and deafness. Bell was a huge supporter of the oral method education for deaf students. I read this well researched book and learned a lot! It’s also frustrating to see how much AGB shaped my life. I had plenty more to say about this book so here is a dedicated blog.

T4 by Anne Clare LeZotte [young adult/historical fiction/poetry]

Nazi Germany adopted the sterilization law program from the United States. The program was renamed T4. The Jewish people weren’t the only ones targeted, also disabled, mentally challenged, deaf, gay, people of color and many more. This book is a historical fiction, written in poetry style. It is a fast read with only 108 pages but powerful enough! There aren’t many stories about T4 or deaf experiences in Holocaust.

The William Hoy Story by Nancy Churnin [children/picture book/biography]

An adorable picture book about the deaf baseball player, William Hoy. Did you know baseball signs were created because of him?? The universal signs you see for Ball, Strike, Out, etc. It wasn’t common to use sign language back in the 1880s. While playing baseball, Hoy asked umpires to help him understand the games, they came up with hand gesture/signals and that’s how it came to fruition. I enjoyed this picture book about Hoy’s life and the history of baseball signs.

I’ll Scream Later by Marlee Matlin [memoir]

A memoir about her experiences in Hollywood, also some from her personal upbringing. She was one of my idols growing up because there were so few successful deaf people visibly out there. She is very honest and blunt, she shares and doesn’t hold anything back in this memoir. It was very interesting to read! I laughed at some parts because Marlee focused on 1980’s-2000s era, which included the technology we used back then. In the book, Marlee mentioned the closed captioning box… I remember toting that box to sleepovers. I met Marlee in Rochester, NY during her book tour in 2009. I was so excited and so shy, I froze and couldn’t say anything to her!

Hands of My Father, A Hearing Boy, His Deaf Parents, and the Language of Love by Myron Uhlberg [memoir]

A memoir by a CODA (Child of Deaf Adult/s). Beautifully written. He lived in Brooklyn, NY during the Great Depression with his deaf parents. This was my first CODA book. He shared a lot, especially the resentment/burden that he felt with having to interpret for his parents. Yet, he had a very close relationship with his dad. I was mesmerized by the way he wrote about his dad’s signing/hand movements. Even through this book was from my deaf culture but it felt foreign to me! Worthwhile to read because CODAs are part of the deaf spectrum.

Song for a Whale by Lynne Kelly [young adult/fiction]

The book focuses on the isolation of a deaf girl in the hearing world. Iris is a 12 years old who is mainstreamed in a hearing school. She is often lonely and her classmates saw her as stupid. Iris learned about a hybrid whale that has its own song, that other whales doesn’t recognize. As a result, the hybrid whale is isolated and lonely. Iris was able to relate with the whale so she seeks out a solution to this problem. This book struck a chord because I understood the isolation. Heartwarming and adorable book!

Train Go Sorry, Inside a Deaf World by Leah Hager Cohen [nonfiction]

Even through the book was published in 1995, it still is worthwhile to read! It focuses on many stories of students, staff and alumni from a deaf school in NYC. It was a very engaging book, including debates within the deaf world - oral vs ASL, cochlear implants, etc. The book also included the history of the deaf school. The author herself was not deaf, but was the daughter of the principal of the deaf school (back in 1995) and her grandfather had been one of the original deaf students at the school.

Show Me a Sign by Ann Clare LeZotte [middle grade/historical fiction]

A historical fiction about Martha’s Vineyard Sign Language. The author is deaf and did a great job of researching for this book. The book follows an 11 years old girl who lives on Martha’s Vineyard with her family. Despite it being sad in some parts, it is very fascinating to read about the history of Martha’s Vineyard and the deaf community!

Everyone Here Spoke Sign Language, Hereditary Deafness on Martha’s Vineyard by Nora Ellen Groce [non fiction/history]

A history/non fiction book about Martha’s Vineyard and its deaf community. The deaf community existed on the island from 17th century until around 20th century. There had been a large deaf population, so Martha’s Vineyard Sign Language was invented. The hearing islanders learned it too. Imagine an entire community that could communicate with each other! I wish this still existed today. It was a well researched book but I was disappointed that no deaf people were interviewed. Still very interesting to read about this deaf history!

Silent Night by Sue Thomas [memoir]

Sue Thomas had been one of my biggest role models growing up. There was a TV show called ‘Sue Thomas FB Eye’ that focused on her experience working for the FBI. I had a strong interest in criminal justice and ended up majoring in it at college. This book focuses more on her personal life, it was really interesting to read about one of my role models! It was heartbreaking because she had a tough life, but I appreciated her honesty. The book was still very enjoyable to read.

Deaf President Now! The 1988 Revolution at Gallaudet University by John B. Christiansen and Sharon M. Barnartt [nonfiction/history]

In 1988 at Gallaudet University, a college for the deaf located in Washington DC, had a week long protest. The deaf students got frustrated when a hearing president was appointed, when they had request for a deaf president. This became one of the most important deaf historical event. The week long protest did conclude in Gallaudet seeing their first deaf president, I. King Jordan. It is a very inspiring read. DEAF CAN!

Deaf Utopia: A Memoir - And a Love Letter to a Way of Life by Nyle DiMarco [memoir]

Nyle DiMarco, known from his time on American’s Next Top Model and Dancing with the Stars. He won both! This is a personal memoir written about his childhood, upbringing, his deaf family, and more. It definitely read like a love letter to ASL and deaf pride/culture. I’m 3 months older than Nyle, but our lives were so different. This is a good example that not all deaf lives are same. There were some parts where I could relate to similar life experiences. I enjoyed this memoir!

Deaf Child Crossing by Marlee Matlin [fiction/middle grade]

This book was released while I was in elementary school. It was my first book with a Deaf character, so this became really special for me! It focuses on a Deaf girl who makes a new friend in her neighborhood. The new hearing friend learns sign language to communicate with her. This also struck a chord with me, reminding me of my childhood friend that I grew up with, who also learned ASL to communicate with me. A beautiful book about friendship.

Give Me A Sign by Anna Sorino [YA fiction]

I loved this book that came out in 2023. The book covered a wide spectrum of Deaf identities. The story takes place at a deaf camp following Lilah, who struggles with being “not deaf enough”. Something I am very familiar with! I wish I had this book when I was a teen! The author did an amazing job of educating about communication (ASL vs voice), the cochlear implants controversy, ableism, and many more.

On The Bright Side by Anna Sorino [YA fiction]

Another amazing book from Anna Sorino — I related a lot to the main character, Ellie who had to go to a new school and be mainstreamed. She meets a new friend, Jackson who has his own disability. The friendship between them is powerful as they maneuver through their journeys of being disabled. I love having more books with deaf/hoh rep!

Signs of Survival by Renee Hartman with Joshua M. Greene [YA memoir]

Renee is a Holocaust survivor, with her deaf sister. The book focused on their experiences as Jews living during the war and the camp. It is a raw and powerful read. The book is a transcribed compilation of video interviews that Renee did for Yale’s Holocaust testimonies archive. There aren’t many stories including deaf people during the Holocaust so this is important book to read.

The Deaf Girl by Abigail Heringer [memoir]

I enjoyed this memoir as I was a fan of Abigail during her time on The Bachelor. This is the first memoir I’ve read about a deaf person with cochlear implants. It is very interesting to learn about her experiences and there were quite a few experiences that we had in common. There’s such a wide spectrum of deaf identities so I highly recommend to have this book on your to be read list!

There are just some recommendations of what I’ve read… there are so many more d/Deaf books out there that I have yet to read! I encourage you to read these books to learn about the deaf culture and expand your knowledge about our deaf world!

How can you be accessible for the Deaf?

Recently I had a conversation with some of my family telling them how I love my dentist because of how accessible they are. I thought that I’d share this with you, especially if you are a business owner. How can you be accessible for the Deaf community?

It is in the Americans Disabilities Act (ADA) that all medical offices and businesses must provide an interpreter if a Deaf person requests one. Not all Deaf people will request an interpreter, so I thought I’d share how you still can provide accessibility without an interpreter.

I do not request an interpreter for the dentist because there’s so little conversation that takes place. So I feel comfortable to go sans interpreter. Every time I walk to the chair, I’m always impressed with how the hygienist has everything ready for me. There is a TV monitor near the chair that is typically used for viewing charts, x-ray scans, etc. She would have a Word document open with a message for me, greeting me and informing me about what’s on the schedule (we need to do x-ray pictures today, etc). She also has a notepad with pen ready on the chair. The hygienist would take the time to ask me questions and make sure I’m ready before she starts the cleaning. When the dentist comes to checkin, sometimes I can lip read her but the hygienist still types what is said. This is how you provide accessibility, offering ALL options. I have the option of lipreading or to look at the computer. It is so helpful because I do understand my dentist pretty well but I STILL miss some words here and there.

This was super helpful when my dentist was absent on one of my visits, I had a different dentist that day. It’s harder for me to lip read someone I not familiar with, that day I relied on the computer for all my information. Imagine if the hygienist didn’t do that? I would’ve left that day not knowing half of what was said.

As I mentioned, the hygienist places a notepad with pen on the chair. These days with technology it is easier for Deaf people to type notes on the phone if needed. The thoughtfulness of providing paper and pen even through I didn’t need them, still gives me the sense that the hygienist is trying. That act alone makes me much more comfortable, calms my nerves and I do not feel that communication with be stressful. She’s not leaving it all on me to ‘work’ for the communication, but making that line open for both of us. I appreciate her so much, she does this EVERY visit and never misses.

It still is so important to provide paper and pen especially if we don’t have access to our phones or something. For example in hospitals: if we are doing medical procedures, or are some place where phones are prohibited, and there’s no interpreter - you need to remember to give the Deaf people something to communicate their needs. It’s important to not only focus on HOW you can communicate, but also remember to give THEM that accessibility.

When people ask me if I can lip read, I know many aren’t aware that question can be ableist. It’s implying that the Deaf person should do all the work of lip reading, communicating, and understanding. Make the communication easier for the hearing people because that’s what they know. Think about if it was reverse, if we (Deaf people) ask EVERY hearing person we meet, “Do you know how to sign?”. I would think many of you may feel some kind of guilt (for not knowing sign) or feel pressured to communicate because of the implication behind the question.

The dentist office is the best accessibility out of all medical offices/appointments I’ve had in my lifetime. My doctor’s office is getting there too. Growing up, I’ve always relied on my parents to do all of the communication with my doctors but this is naturally for children. Once I moved to Connecticut I had to find a new doctor as an adult. My first Doctors was not a good experience, there was a lack of communication, accessibility issues and the office had difficulties providing me a certified interpreter.  After a while of this, I switched to a new doctor. I was so traumatized by the interpreter issues from the prior office that I didn’t request one with my current doctor. My husband does it all. However, I did noticed a growth of awareness over time with the doctor office. They email me instead of calling my husband, I can email my doctor with questions or place pharmacy orders. That gives me a huge sense of independence. The front office staff also seems to be learning some ASL.

I like to be looked at as an individual when I visit a business instead of relying on others for communication.  They should not rely on my husband to interpret for us. It gives me more confident when they give me that accessibility because that is a sense of independence for Deaf people. So how can you be better if you have a Deaf customer without an interpreter? Always have all options ready.

Aside from medical offices or professional businesses, I do favor stores and places where there’s someone who is helpful in communicating. When I have a great experience (even if it was only once), I’ll be a loyal customer. I have to admit that I even pay attention to the schedules so I know when a specific person would likely be working.

If you don’t have the ability to provide pen and paper, or there are no phones near by … gesturing still goes a long way. Patience too, I always get tense when I stand in a line, with more people behind me.  I have no idea how patient the employee would be with me. I’ll share one ‘wrong’ example. I went to a local donut shop to get donuts and coffee to surprise my husband. I’m not familiar with coffee orders because I’m not a coffee drinker. I don’t know all the jargon. I asked for ‘white chocolate mocha coffee.’ The barista stood there and stared frozen at my phone screen.  I could sense that the wheels were turning in her mind, I knew she had a question. She didn’t ask. I pointed at the menu behind her, implying she could point to what she was trying to ask me. She didn’t do that, but instead walked to another employee and talked a little. That was it. I assumed she got the order. I ended up going home with an iced coffee with mocha syrup. I had asked for a HOT coffee and the coffee that was already white chocolate mocha flavored without additional flavors.

I was frustrated that she didn’t have the patience to gesture or try to ask her question. She didn’t even try to talk to me. That’s a huge wrong example how to treat your Deaf customers. I understand that the girl might’ve been nervous and never met a Deaf person so she froze. We are so used to that, we have the patience to wait and be sure that we are understood. We WANT to be understood. Do not assume. Just TRY.

I have so many more right and wrong stories but it’d make this blog post too long. I’m very willing to have further conversation with anyone who wants more tips or advices on how to provide accessibility. If your situation is more specific, please don’t hesitant to reach out to me for more help or ideas. It will make every Deaf person’s day if someone puts in the effort to provide accessibility for all of us at your business. Truthfully, that also will get you MORE customers because we will be raving about you.

gluten free eats in Mystic

In Mystic, we are blessed with amazing restaurants. There are so many choices so it’s hard to pick sometimes! Even if you’re gluten free! Wait, there’s actually options for gluten free?? I get this question online all the time, so as a Mystic resident I’ll share the good spots with you!


Breakfast

  • Somewhere in Time - GF toast / GF pancakes / GF bagel

  • Popover Eatery - great GF options including waffles, chicken fingers, etc!

  • Kitchen Little - GF toast / GF French toast / omelettes

  • Deviant Donuts - one option of gluten sensitive donut every weekend


Lunch/Dinner

  • Red 36 - GF menu

  • SP Oyster - GF menu

  • Engine Room - the best homemade GF buns!

  • Mystic Pizza - the best GF pizza crust!

  • Daniel Packer Inne - GF starters + entrees options

  • Rio Salado - majority of menu can be GF

  • Taquerio - all tacos are on corn tortillas so most can be GF

  • Noble BBQ - GF options / BBQ sauces are GF

  • Chapter One - GF pasta / salads

  • Mango’s Wood Fired Pizza - GF pizza crust

  • Angie’s Pizza - GF pizza crust

  • Friar Tuck’s - GF bun

  • Anthony J’s - GF pasta

  • Mystic Market - GF bread / GF wrap / GF sides


Dessert

  • Sift - GF + Dairy Free chocolate chip cookies / GF macarons

  • Lis Bakeshop - few GF options


Please note that cross contamination is always a risk at all locations. Talk with your server for more questions/concerns. None of the recommendations has a dedicated gluten free facility.

Engine Room.

S&P Oyster.

Red 36. (The beer is NOT gluten free, just posted with it for this photo!)

Taquerio.

Blessing of the Fleet

Last week I shared the guide to visiting Stonington, CT. One of the annual July events, The Blessing of the Fleet was this past weekend. The Blessing of the Fleet has been happening for 60+ years in Stonington borough. A tradition to honor our fishermen and their families as well as remembering the ones we lost. Read more about it here.

This year was the first time that Town Dock hosted an Open House on Saturday. I attended and got a peek inside of the fishing vessels that I often photograph. I didn’t realize that I’d be walking away with an expanded knowledge and even MORE appreciation for our fishermen!

I toured two different type of fishing vessels:


F/V Tradition

This boat goes out for 2-4 days. If they catch squids, then it is shorter trip because squids doesn’t stay fresh for long. This crew is usually 2-4 people. The captain even sometimes goes out alone! The boat is a lot smaller compared to the scallop boat.


F/V Furious

The scallop boat goes out 6x a year, for 5-15 days at a time. There is usually a crew of 5-6 people. This boat was HUGE, close to 60 feet long. We started the tour on the deck, where the scallops first comes on board. They go through a sorting process (weeding out baby scallops, rocks, etc). Meanwhile, they only have 50 minutes before the next net of scallops comes in! The scallops are then brought into a room inside the vessel where they’re dumped into a trough. In there, the scallops are cut out of the shells and washed. 50 pounds of scallops are put into a bag that goes down a chute to the chilled storage space below the deck.

Another surprising fact that I learned was that the captain actually helps with this process WHILE piloting the boat from that room. That room is in the back of the boat so there is no direct view of water in the front. This processing room does have a GPS/spotter that the captain uses to navigate.

After learning the processing of scallops, we saw the gallery and kitchen. I watch too many TV shows, so I always thought fishermen doesn’t shower while they’re out on the seas. I can confirm that F/V Furious DOES have a shower! The fisherman also shared that they bring about $3K worth of food for their voyage. They work in 6 hour shifts. Every day they must report about their catch: how many they got, what trip and even the location, all this information goes to the regulatory committee.  It is important that the scallops, and all other seafood, are not over fished.


F/V Furious also can be limited to where they can fish on the water, which is why the regulatory committee also need to know their location. While we were touring the piloting section of the boat (called the wheelhouse), they answered any questions that people had.  We were told one story about a recent gas fill up that ran over $40K. The crew is not paid a salary, instead each crew member is given some portion of shares of the profit, so unfortunately they all feel the pain of raising supply costs.

I always had an appreciation for our fishermen, but this tour allowed us to ask all the questions and learn more in depth about their trips. Obviously I never knew all of the behind-the-scene details - how long they leave for, how much things cost them, how long their shifts are, etc. This tour showed how they truly work hard to bring amazing fresh seafood to our shoreline town. I’m really glad that the Town Dock hosted the Open House this year!

Please support them by purchasing LOCAL seafood. There is a Sea Well right there at the town dock. The seafood is in a freezer and it is a honor system, you pay for what you get (there’s a price list in the window). See more retailers (and restaurants!) that has Stonington Fresh seafood here.

Please inform me if I got any facts incorrect as it was a verbal tour. I didn’t think to take notes as I did not expect to have my knowledge expanded as much it did!

Stonington Borough

A hop over from Mystic, visit the quintessential New England historical town of Stonington. The borough quickly became a favorite place of mine when I first moved here. I was drawn to the beautiful homes lining the main street. Stonington is the oldest village in Connecticut, established in 1649. It’s the perfect destination during any season, I love to take a stroll around the borough!

Here are some suggestions of what to do in Stonington:

Shop the local businesses

There are a variety of shops up and down the main street from clothing, floral, jewelry, antiques, art galleries, boutiques, pet supplies and more.

Walk around the borough

There are several routes in Stonington. There is a short coastline trail in front of Stonington Commons, if you walk down the paved path from the Yacht Club to the gazebo - the trail will start there. Another route is inside Dodge Paddock/Beal Preserve. Go down Wall Street and you’ll find a small lot to park in. The trail is through the marshes with views of the harbor.

Visit the locations of where movies were filmed

See the Mystic Pizza blog here. Many of the locations were filmed in Stonington. Another movie, Hope Springs starring Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones also was filmed in Stonington. You will recognize the yellow house near the Cannon Square as ‘the therapist office’ in the movie. A few Hallmark/Lifetime holiday movies also have been filmed here.

Stonington Fishermen Dock

I enjoy coming here a lot to photograph the fishing fleet. It is open to the public from dawn to dusk. Please respect the fishermen and don’t touch or use their equipments. I do have to warn, the seafood smell can be STRONG so if you don’t like the scent, this is not the place for you! There is a small lot near the overlook where you can enjoy the views (and sometime watch people fish!). Nearby the dock, you can purchase frozen seafood from Sea Well Seafood to bring home.

Old Lighthouse

Built in 1840, it has a beautiful stonework on the exterior. Recently, the museum inside the lighthouse underwent a renovation, and it looks amazing! Very open and spacious. There is an admission fee of $10 for adults. This fee will allow you entry to the tower (top of the lighthouse), the views can be breathtaking! I often enjoy the grounds of the lighthouse with my pup, as well many other dogs.

DuBois Beach

Across the street from the lighthouse is a small beach. During the summers you will need a pass to enter. During off season it is open to the public. The parking lot gives you a 360 view of the harbor. You can see the Ocean House in Watch Hill, RI. One of the best spots for sunsets!

Dine in many of Stonington’s restaurants

There are several restaurants in Stonington that are really good! My favorite breakfast spot is Indulge Coffee and Sandwich Co. Indulge, a quaint neighborhood spot with delicious egg sandwiches, coffee and more. They have gluten free options! For lunch or dinner, I love Breakwater. You cannot beat the waterfront views during the warm months. The shrimp tacos are the best! Noah’s Restaurant is also a wonderful long time institution in Stonington (40+ years!). A true local’s spot. It’s always so cozy especially during the holidays. Dog Watch Cafe is another good one! They have a dock overlooking the water and the boatyard, which is a must during the summer.

Velvet Mill

A bit way out of the borough, but not too far, is a repurposed mill with many small businesses. A variety of artists studios, antiques, clothing, health services (massage, yoga, etc), tattoo parlor, bakery to restaurants. There’s even a brewery in there. Velvet Mill is a great hidden gem in Stonington. I love stopping in Zest for the gluten free goods. Woodfella’s Pizza and Wings also has been a long time favorite of mine, both pizza and wings are so good! The best part about Velvet Mill is that it’s dog friendly too!

There are so many events that occurs in Stonington. Here are a few that I’ve attended and really enjoyed!

Tulips [April]

In the spring there are thousands of tulips blooming all around the borough. The majority of them were around the green where Stonington Free Library is. It’s always so beautiful to see. I had read somewhere that there was 3,000 tulips planted!

Gardens by the Sea [June]

The Stonington Garden Club hosts this event in June. A walking tour of gardens in the borough, where some private residences open up their property to the public for a fee. It is a very popular event in the borough, and it always is packed that weekend! The tour tickets for this event can be purchased online (Stonington Garden Club website) or on-site.

Fourth of July Parade [July]

The parade and reading of the Declaration of Independence is a tradition in the borough on Fourth of July. The Stonington Historical Society hosts this event annually. It’s always one of the best times of the year in Stonington when the whole village is decked out patriotically. Small town living at its best!

Blessing of the Fleet [July]

An annual event I always look forward to at end of July. It is a weekend long event honoring our lobstermen and their families, as well remembering the lost ones. The weekend usually starts with a 5K through the borough. On Saturday, Stonington Holy Ghost Society hosts a gathering with live music and food. On Sunday, there will be a mass at St. Mary’s Church. After the mass, there will be a ceremony at the fishermen dock. The boats are usually decked out for the ceremony - very nautical! The vessels goes out in the water where they are blessed and lay a wreath for the lost fishermen. This year, there will be an open house at the fishermen dock where you can tour some of the vessels! Read more about it here.

Village Fair [August]

A long time tradition going back to 1952, the fair consists of many vendors, games, music, food and many more. One of my favorite part, there’s a used book sale! It’s a great community event open to everyone! The fair is in the Wadawanuck Square.

Holiday stroll [December]

I regularly attend this every year. The main street is decked out in holiday garnish, the shops stays opened late, horse carriage rides, people milling around with friends, and there’s the Christmas tree lighting ceremony in the square near the library.

Stonington Lobster Trap Tree [Late November-January]

New to Stonington’s holiday tradition, there is a lobster trap tree on the green in front of the fishermen dock. It is a stunning display with amazing community involvement. All buoys are hand painted by local artists. I enjoyed visiting this tree several times last winter and appreciated all the beautiful artwork/buoys. I am very much look forward to seeing it again this winter!

100th anniversary of Mystic Drawbridge

Mystic is celebrating a huge milestone this week… the 100th anniversary of the Mystic Drawbridge! The bascule bridge is the oldest operating in the United States. Even if you haven’t been to Mystic, you will recognize the bridge on many logos, tourism ads, clothing and much more! The bridge is located in the downtown, it’s hard to miss! The bascule bridge is a movable bridge with counter weights that lifts the bridge. During the summers, it goes up every hour at the 40 mark. (8:40, 9:40, etc) from 8am-8pm. The best viewing spot is obviously in the Mystic River Park nearby.

Mystic Chamber is hosting several events to honor the 100th anniversary of the bridge. The fireworks show will be occurring in October. They also have a visitor’s center at the foot of the bridge for this summer, showcasing the history and artwork of the Mystic Drawbridge. Signature bridge souvenirs are also sold here, as well in many of Downtown shops.

Also at Groton Public Library, The Mystic River Historical Society set up a small exhibit with the history of the Mystic Drawbridge. I found it very interesting when I went there back in May. Several photos shows the drawbridge going back to the 1800’s. It is the 100th anniversary of when the bridge became moveable, opening the bridge for the first time on July 19, 1922. There also is a section about what the drawbridge was like the day ‘Mystic Pizza’ was filmed (the only scene filmed in Mystic). The exhibit will be there until October 31st, free of charge and open during library hours.

It’s amazing how many of my memories includes this landmark. I visited Mystic in the Summer of 2010 before moving here later that year. I remember standing on the drawbridge looking toward Mystic Seaport, thought about how much I fell in love with the town and could see myself living in this coastal town. Two months later, my husband got a job a town over! It was meant to be! Few years later, we had our engagement photo session on the drawbridge. We had our first family photo with our Dalmatian by the bridge. Many summers were spent here with my family visiting from Upstate NY. Too many fond memories to list them all!

Watching the bridge go up and down will never get old. I enjoy that 10-20 minutes of time standing still, looking around at the scenery on the river and watching the visitors in awe of the bridge (also laugh at those who aren’t familiar with the bridge’s horn). I still enjoy photographing the bridge through all seasons and at different times of the day. I admire other people’s photographs of the bridge - it’s amazing how many different photos we can get of this landmark!

The bridge isn’t the only thing to see in Mystic. Within walking distance of the bridge, in Downtown there are many shops, plethora of restaurants, art museum and galleries, diverse bookstore, ice cream shops and many more. I have plenty recommendations if you ever need some, check out the MYSTIC tab here!

Here’s to another 100 years of this beautiful drawbridge in Mystic!